IT'S THAT TIME OF YEAR AGAIN

SUMMER ANTHEM. At least in my opinion =)

Yin & Yang

"Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance, order, rhythm and harmony.”
Thomas Merton

do you ever just have one of those days when all you can do is go to work and think "f" it? i did that today. i went to work and actually did most of my work. i didn't really talk to anybody. i just walked around like the office zombie that i'm turning into. the sad part about it, is that i'm not the only one with that, "i'm over it attitude." my office has ALOT of tension. it's like this black cloud that consumes you the minute you walk through the door. i think someone should come and bless it or something. i'm currently looking for a great pirate sign that says, "abandon hope, all ye who enter here." everyday is the same thing. bickering, yelling, backstabbing and on and on and on. don't get me wrong. i like my job and am very appreciative of the perks and flexibility that it allows me. but i just wish that there wasn't so much negative energy that flows through that place everyday. hopefully down the line, there can eventually be some kind of balance. until then, office zombie signing off.

until next post...

sleeeeeep

i've been up since 2am. it's now 4:36am. husband, son, and daughter have been sleeping straight through. i wish there were some kind of "turn brain off" switch somewhere on the side of my head. then the road to sleepytown wouldn't be as hard to get to.

In the court of King Morals, Queen Principles, and Prince Values

I ORGINALLY WASN'T GOING TO POST THIS, BUT TIME HAS GONE ON AND THIS IS THE ONLY PLACE THAT I FEEL THAT #1 I CAN VENT ABOUT IT AND #2 IF THERE IS SOMEONE OUT THERE THAT CAN GIVE ME ANY FEEDBACK ON MAYBE WHAT I CAN DO. UNFORTUNATELY, THE COURTS ARE ALL ABOUT THE EVIDENCE. MAYBE THERE'S SOME KIND OF "COURT" OUT THERE THAT WOULD TRY THIS FROM A FOUNDATION OF JUST PURE MORALS, VALUES & PRINCIPLES.


please excuse the massive amounts of grammatical and punctuation errors in this post as it's late and there's alot to write, so here goes:

there was once a man who managed a restaurant(we'll talk about him in a bit) and there was once a woman(if you could call her that) who worked there. now the woman had a boyfriend who she would fight with and who would physically and verbally abuse her when they were together. he would also call her @ work (on her cell phone because there were no personal phone calls allowed) to argue with her as well. the woman had a vehicle which the man broke one of her windows because they were fighting and he got angry. the woman wanted out of the relationship, but couldn't leave the boyfriend because he helped to pay her rent. then one day, the woman gets pregnant with boyfriend's baby. here is where restaurant manager comes into play.
one day restaurant manager calls his wife to ask here for information regarding domestic violence. his wife asks him why and he explains that he has a woman (if you could call her that) that works for him who's pregnant and is involved in an abusive relationship. the woman says that she's being hit by her boyfriend and is afraid for herself and her unborn baby. the woman says that the boyfriend has already hit her to the point where she's fallen down. the restaurant manager's wife feels for this woman and immediately emails her husband information for the woman to try and get some help with her situation. the restaurant manager gives the information to the woman(if you can call her that) and let's her know that he's there to help her.
now the preganant woman's performance at the restaurant is deteriorating due to obvious pregnancy and constant phone calls from her boyfriend to argue. some instances she was asked to be quiet because she was yelling on the phone. the restaurant manager is in a pickle because he still wants to help the woman because of the fact that she's pregnant and in the abusive relationship. he knows that if he let's her go, that she will have no place to go and her relationship with the boyfriend might become more volitile and might hurt the baby. woman is starting to take more breaks at work and more phone calls from her boyfriend. there was one incident where her boyfriend dropped her off at work and they were fighting. when he sped off in the restaurant parking lot, he almost hit an elderly couple. again, the restaurant manager is in a bind because he's feeling sorry for this woman and her sad, sad relationship status.
the restaurant manager finally tells the woman that she really needs to get some help for her situation because it is becoming dangerous to his customers and her performance is not doing as well because of her constant arguing phone calls with her boyfriend. she agrees and decides to call a counselor to talk about her situation. the manager lets the woman know that if she continues to see her boyfriend, that he might have to let her go because he can't have situations like that around his restuarant that puts everyone at risk. the woman agrees to stop seeing the boyfriend and keeps working at the restaurant until she gives birth.
one day the restaurant and his wife go to the bank. his wife is outside of the bank waiting for him when she sees the woman, her boyfriend, and their newborn pull into a stall at the bank. the whole time, the boyfriend is yelling and swearing at the woman to get the "f" out of the "f'ing" car and to hurry the "f" up. the restaurant manager's wife is listening in dismay. the woman finally gets out of the car and the boyfriend is still yelling at her telling her that she better stop "f'ing" playing and get the "f" out of the car. the woman take her baby out of the carseat and hands the infant to the boyfriend. the woman then proceeds to walk into the bank and is in there for about two minutes when she rushes out and tells the boyfriend, (in a hurried voice) that they needed to leave now! the boyfriend tells her what the "f" is going on and she doesn't answer him but is now rushing to put the infant back into the carseat so that they can leave. all the while while listening to the boyfriend swear at her. the boyfriend then starts their vehicle and speeds off down main street. at this point, the restaurant manager comes out of the bank and his wife said that she had just seen the woman and her boyfriend speed off. the wife said that the woman had gone into the bank and the rushed out. the restaurant manager told his wife that she most likely did that because she had told him that she would not be seeing the boyfriend any longer because he is a hazard to the restaurant and it's customers.
now the restaurant manager's wife is concerned for the child. the restaurant manager's wife is wanting to call an agency that can help children who are subject to volitile relationships where they are not able to help themselves. the restaurant manager asks the wife not to call because the boyfriend will know it was someone related to the restaurant and he didn't want any harm to come to the woman, nor did he want any retaliation from the boyfriend. so, feeling crappy and against her good judgement, the wife agreed not to call.
so in the next few days, the restaurant manager sees the woman and asks her if she is still seeing her abusive boyfriend to which she answers yes. the restaurant manager tells her that he needs to let her go because she is too much of a liability to his restaurant and it's customers. he tells the woman that he can write her a great letter of reference for her next job search or she can choose to fight it. the restaurant manager tells the woman that he's not sure what would happen if she chooses to fight the firing. he tells her that alot of things might come up in the case and that the scene at the bank and the fact that the restaurant manager's wife wanted to call the agency might come up as well. the restaurant manager is feeling bad for having to go to this extreme and let her go, but she really gave him no choice. his first priority is his restaurant. the woman agrees to the letter of reference and signs the papers letting her go from the restaurant.
time goes by and the restaurant manager gets a letter in the mail from a lawyer for the woman stating that she is suing him for discrimination and wrongful termination because she is a woman and she is pregnant. the restaurant manager is hurt. how can this woman who he tried to help go and stab him in the back like this? he did all he could to help her out and gave her as many chances as he possibly could and now she decides that she wants to sue him? this first letter really goes nowhere and so the woman decides to go to a particular civil liberties union in her state to again try to sue the restaurant and the restaurant manager as an individual and this is where things stand for now.
i guess that when people are desperate for cash, they will pull out all the stops and forget about the people that tried to help them when they were down. it's sad to think that this woman is a mother and even sadder to know that this is the kind of things that she will teach her baby.

Update: Well, she's won the first phase of this fight. Now, she's suing for a (excuse my language) FUCKING RIDICULOUS amount of money saying that she's owed pain and suffering. What about the pain and suffering that she's causing to this manager and his family who tried to help her, no protect her???? BTW, the restaurant manager's wife was pregnant at the same time as the woman. WHY THE HELL WOULD THE RESTAURANT MANAGER DISCRIMINATE AGAINST SOMEONE IN THE SAME SITUATION AS HIS OWN WIFE?????? Sorry for the capitals, it just frustrates me to no end how selfish, greedy and manipulative this woman can be because she knows the courts will side with her.

In conclusion (as if this was some sort of essay for school), if the restaurant manager really did discriminate against the woman, then by all means he would be at fault. The problem is that he didn't discriminate against her. He tried to help her and for that he's still at fault? Again, how can i teach my children to help people when they need it, when people will stab you in the back? "Don't help that screaming woman on the street who's getting beaten by her boyfriend honey. She might sue you because you dislocated her shoulder when you pulled her out of the way of her boyfriend's fist."

Until next post...

Welcome

I've suggested to my old skool carnival buddy aka best friend that she start a blog. I think that she would do quite well since I know that she's got alot to say and this would be a great outlet for her to speak. So, to you carnival buddy, I say come join us (although I don't blog too much, but keep telling myself that i will) because I need more blogs to read while I'm supposed to be working.

Here We Go Again

"February 7th: Baby Loves Disco transforms Honolulu's hottest club into a child proof disco as children (6 months to 7 years) and parents looking for a break from the routine playground circuit let loose for an afternoon dance party featuring real music spun by real DJs blending classic disco. Plus, bubble machines, a chill-out area, diaper changing stations, a full spread of healthy snacks AND optional cocktails for non-driving parents. Saturday afternoon is the new Saturday night. 2 pm - 5 pm, $12 per walking human, in advance/online. $15 at the door, day of event."

i acutally blogged about this situation before, but never really had an ad to prove what i was talking about...until today. if you look above in bold, you will see the reason why i'm so pissed about this event. my husband told me to let it go already, but i can't. how are do you have an event for children ages infant to 7 years old and serve "optional cocktails for non-driving parents?" WTF!!!! IT'S A CHILDRENS' EVENT FOR CHRIST'S SAKE. why even serve the "optional" drinks at all?" i don't know, in my opinion this is just wrong. does the venue need money that badly that they have to go ahead and serve "optional" cocktails for 3 hours in the middle of the day? ok, i'm not over it, but i have other stuff to do. again, this is just my opinion.

Holy Girl Parts Batman!!!!

so yesterday, my husband and i found out that we're going to be having a girl. i just wanted a healthy baby, but a girl will also do just fine. there's one small problem. WHAT THE HELL DO YOU DO WITH GIRLS????!!!! i have nieces but i never really took care of them as infants. you have to wipe a certain way and you can't be too rough. you mean i can't just throw them on the bed while we're playing? you see, in our family, especially in the next generation there are five boys and only two girls. again, the two girls i have never really taken care of as infants. i have no idea really what to do. i'm not even a girly girl as those who know me can attest to. put up her hair in cute barrettes? how do you do that? make cute little ponytails? what do you mean i have to brush her hair? i don't even brush my own hair. wtf???!!!??? bows? little headbands? huh? am i gonna have to go to the mac counter and get some quick classes so i can at least show my daughter how to but on some kind of makeup when she gets older? OMG. i think the walls are starting to spin. little purses and froo froo dresses? sheesh. well, at least i have girly girls around me who i'm sure will be able to froo froo out my daughter to the nines. and with the two grandmothers who will definitely be FIGHTING (oops i mean COOING) over my daughter, then i'm sure everything will be fine. i just can't wait for my son to have someone to keep him company or should i say a little sister to beat him up and he can't do anything because #1: she's smaller & #2: she's a girl. but in the end, i believe that God doesn't give us anything that we can't handle. so since everything happens for a reason, there's obviously a reason she's going to be coming into our lives. i just want clay aiken to come to the hospital and sing the stevie wonder song like he did in scrubs for my daughter. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=07ZNORc6xW4 oh well, here's to welcoming a brand new girl in our lives. however she turns out, i just want for her the same thing i want for my son. i want them to be who they are and be happy.

until next post.